Every day, porn star and University of Southern California journalism grad student Tasha Reign wakes up to a curious string of emails from her fans, a devoted group of men and women she lovingly refers to as “Reigndeer.” Said Reigndeer ask her questions – so many questions – about her perspectives on sex, love, relationships and life itself, and as someone who’s had more firsthand experience in these areas than four adult women combined, she’s become uniquely up to the task of answering them. Once a week then, Tasha will select a few of these questions and grace us with her insight, advice and expert wisdom in the hopes that she can help you fuck and love long, too.
I’m a 25-year-old guy who is really, really attracted to older women. But there aren’t many of them on dating apps. How, then, would you go about finding one? And do you have any tips for impressing them or showing them I’m worthy? I’m not picky so I’m open to hookups and dating. When I’m the 30-year-old and my boyfriend is a couple of years younger, it’s pretty thrilling. I’ve also dated much older men. Like, much older – 50-year-old men, 60-year-old men, old, old men! And for good reason – older people are usually attractive, funny, decisive, smart, financially stable and more mature. Sure, their dicks aren’t as hard, there’s absolutely no way they’re staying up with you and they’re losing their hair, but does any of that matter? No! Older people are hot.
That’s why I’m so glad you’re into cougars. I’m only 30, and the age-obsessed L.A. culture I live in makes me feel like I’m 45. In the porn world, I’m 60. But, my 28-year-old boyfriend definitely makes me feel young. I love it.
You’re right, though – finding older women isn’t always easy. Mainstream dating apps are lacking in the older women department, and while there are definitely a few on there – especially on Seeking Arrangement – I think the ever-changing demands of technology scares off most of them (that, or they grew up meeting dates IRL and prefer that to swiping). That said, there are some cougar-specific dating apps and sites you might want to check out like Cougar D and CougarLife . There are even local meet-up groups in some cities where older ladies can meet impressionable young “cubs” like yourself.
Personally, I love age differences
There are also a ton of restaurants and bars that have cougar nights. These are where older women go to meet younger men in person, and they’re a hell of a good time. escort sites San Diego Look up where they are in your city (if you’re anywhere in SoCal, Mastro’s in Newport Beach has an awesome cougar night).
Not only does this give you way more sex and dating options than the average guy, but you also get to help them feel fresh and sexy, something society doesn’t always do
As for how you can make an impression? Just be yourself, because that playful energy is what older women who are interested in younger men are attracted to. Make sure you compliment them and make them feel beautiful, too. I’d also recommend you let them take initiative (older women really know what they want), but flirt with them when the timing is right. Play into the young kinky thing a little bit, but don’t bring up how much younger you are too much as that can be a real turn-off.
At the same time, be very upfront with your intentions. I once dated a 22-year-old when I was 27 (not that big of a difference, but still). It was so much fun because he wanted to fuck all the time, he lasted forever and he could get it up over and over again, but the downside was that he didn’t want a commitment and I did. So, most importantly, like any other relationship, be clear with what you’re looking for.